That kind of a schedule gives every child more self-control. And many kids need a couple of hours of outdoor play after preschool. I don't know if your son is in preschool full time, but you might consider moving him to part time if possible. Research has shown that for some kids, daycare causes more aggression.
These kids need more downtime, or they feel overwhelmed, and they start hitting other kids. They benefit from attentive supervision from adults to learn social skills while they play with other kids, so playdates are better than group situations for them.
And most of the time, more quality time with Mom or Dad makes a huge difference. I know that what I'm describing may seem like a fulltime job for awhile. My feeling is that your son is at a turning point, and he's letting you know it. If you can commit yourself to his well-being, you can reorient him toward a bright future. He really needs you on his side, and now is the time to let him know you're there.
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Jennifer B. It works. And the more rest I get, the more patience I have. It makes a difference. When Your Child's the Bully at Preschool. While it's tough to think of your sweetie as anything less than sweet, if your tyke's taken part in preschool bullying, you'll need to help put a stop to it.
Here's what to do if you suspect your child is bullying at preschool. What is preschool bullying? More In This Series. Acing the Preschool Parent-Teacher Conference.
Starting Preschool. More on Disciplining Your Toddler. Fill their heads and hearts with love. Get this as a PDF. Enter email to download and get news and resources in your inbox. Share this on social. Family Resource Center Behavior Problems. How to find out what's behind the bullying behavior, and foster healthy friendship skills Brigit Katz. What You'll Learn Why do some children bully other kids?
What should I do if my child is a bully? Quick Read. Full Article. Why do kids bully? Provide meaningful consequences. Brigit Katz. Her writing has appeared on NYtimes. Was this article helpful? Explore Popular Topics.
Behavior Problems. Learning Disorders. View More Topics. Sign Up for Our Newsletters. Think about how you talk around your kids and how you handle conflict and problems. If you behave aggressively — toward or in front of your kids — chances are they'll follow your example. Instead, point out positives in others, not negatives. When conflicts arise in your own life, be open about your frustration and how you cope with your feelings.
There will be situations that need discipline and helpful criticism. But don't let that slip into name-calling and accusations. If you don't like your child's behavior, stress that it's the behavior that you'd like your child to change, and you have confidence that they can do it.
If a stressful life event at home may affect your child's behavior, get help from resources at school and in your community. Guidance counselors, pastors, therapists, and your doctor can help. If your child has a history of arguing, defiance, and trouble controlling anger, consider getting an evaluation with a therapist or behavioral health professional.
As frustrating as it can be to help kids stop bullying, remember that bad behavior won't stop on its own. Think about the success and happiness you want your kids to find in school, work, and relationships throughout life. Curbing bullying now is progress toward those goals.
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